Mending a broken heart is never easy, especially if you wanted the relationship to last. It's painful - it's like being underwater and having a hard time to breathe. But getting your heart broken should not hold you back from living happily and loving deeply once more. Remember that the pain from our past experience and relationships teaches us a lot of things, making us better and stronger than before.
But how do we get past the excruciating pain? Here are some tips that I've gathered from experts and people who have been there on how they've picked up the broken pieces to move on and live a happy life again.
Step 1. Feel the pain, don't skip it.
This is probably the most difficult part for a person with a broken heart. Definitely, no one would want to stand on a pit of fire because you know it will only hurt you more. But here's the painful truth: That's exactly what you have to do to get over and move on. Denying what have happened or not accepting it will just make the matter worse.
Here's what you should do: Cry. And let all those feelings out of your system. If you want to shout, do so. The most important thing is you feel the pain and let it comes out. If you'll do it right, whatever intense pain you may be feeling right now will eventually be gone and lost forever.
Step 2. Say goodbye to end the relationship for good.
This doesn't necessarily have to be done by meeting with the person face to face. You can do this by simply grabbing a picture of him and telling to that object that represents him something like this: "I'm happy even without you, and I'm now ready to move on." Remember that you should only say positive things to make the recovery much easier and better.
Step 3. Go out with your friends.
Going out and meeting with friends and new people is one of the fastest ways to recover from breakup. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself and cursing that person who've caused you pain, why not mingle with others and find the happiness you deserve? Though it may be difficult in the beginning, you'll eventually realize the importance of reaching out to your friends and families, especially in times like this. It's also a good thing to know that there are people who care and willing to listen about how you really feel.
Step 4. Do something worthwhile.
Even though you've been in a tough situation, you still deserve to be happy. Don't allow yourself to stay in that dark cocoon of yours and just let the situation eats you up. There are more things in life to be happy and celebrate about. Go out and do the things that you normally do. Better if you'll try the things you've never done before. It will make you feel much better. Never tried hiking? Do it. Never tried rappelling? Do it. Never been in the other side of the town? Go and travel there.
Have fun and make the most out of your life. But as much as possible, avoid alcohol, bars, junk foods - anything that will make your situation only worse. Remember, you're already grown up. And you already know what's right and wrong.
Step 5. Forgive and learn.
Recognize this as an opportunity to learn and have a better life. Remember that everything that happens to us has a purpose. What you need to do is discover it and apply it to your life. Take time to find out if there are certain issues in your life or yourself that need attention or improvement. Why do think the breakup happened in the first place? Was it because of you or him? Maybe you need to be more responsible or make a little change about your attitude. Take this time to reflect and know what you really need and want.
And don't forget to forgive the person, no matter how much he or she have caused you pain. I know, forgiveness is the most difficult task, but it is also the most important one. However, there's no rush when it comes to this. I know that you can never force yourself to forgive someone when you're not ready yet. With the right heart and attitude, everything will be in good place and you will be happy, again.
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